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HOW DO YOU FEED THE MINDSET?

Today I am continuing with the spiritual awakening series, but I will base much of my discussion on the mindset. How do you feed your mind? I intent to help someone today.

Sometimes you can feel un easy, everything seemingly just upside down. At that moment you do not seem to find the solution to bring joy and smart feelings to yourself. You just feel as if you don’t belong to this world or as if something too bad was taking place. Maybe you have tried all types of counseling and life coaching but it seems to be not working to your satisfaction and there seems to be no solution to the problem. No, there is no problem without a solution.

The solution is always available somewhere. Go through this smart mindset guide and you will get a satisfactory solution and even if you were not in an emotional dilemma this guide is just good for you.

Thank you for choosing this Smart Mindset guide. At Life Light Foundation we are the life people so we are much concerned about people and life. My assumption is that you chose to read this guide because you have an area of need in yourself or you might be just interested to read about life caring blogs.

The healing process starts right here as you sit , watch or listen to this video . The healing process of the soul starts in the mind. Right here start by building the following smart building blocks. Understand that each step of the discussion here is a building block and so your attitude or an individual’s attitude towards the healing process is the secret for the healing

Right away get to know that the mind and the emotions of a person are not the person so they cannot control her or him. By this I mean those are not the real person by rather some kind of natural forceful egos which are subjective to smart self-control. It is rather the person her that has power to choose her destiny. I would like to elaborate on this note.

The real person is spiritual. More about real life and spirituality from my life book here: https://books2read.com/u/bW5xOY 

Do the following to awaken the dormant spiritual person:

Do not rely much on your natural feelings for life decisions.

Do not rely on emotionally fogged mindset on your actions.

Weaken a grudging or condemning mindset (either self-condemning or others).

Weaken an unforgiving mindset.

Have a vision beyond the current situation and into the far future life achievements.

Weaken an independent mindset and replace it with a dependent child to parent mindset for God.

Learn to talk and depend on God by following His ways. You can contact me if you want to learn more about His ways. The greatest thing for life is first to know His person and you can know God’s person by knowing Jesus. Reading the Bible and attending church can help so much.

We pray because we want the intervention of higher power to help in our situation. And such a higher power is available but the challenge is that many people do not know how to commune in that grace.

Bring life to the mind by engaging on the inner person, the spiritual person.

There is a real person inside of every one of us. Some call that person the inner person and others call that entity the soul. I agree with them all but I go further to call that person the spiritual person and that sounds quite perfect to me. The real reason why I separate these three components that form what we call a person is the very same reason why I want to talk a bit more about the spiritual person. The reason is that we want to understand what is called spiritual healing. So in order to understand the process we need to separate and define each one. I am going to explain more into these seemingly three in one persons and what they mean in life.

First, when we talk about spiritual healing we are talking about healing of the inner person, soul, or spiritual person.

The mind- The mind is the literal first person or signal interception protocol. Our five senses create their awareness in the brain where memory is stored. In the brain is where all historical records or schemas are kept. The rationale interface and processes taking place in the brain every moment of life is literally the mind. So the mind is like the servant or mouth piece of the works of what is coming out of the brain yet at the invisible far end of the tunnel the brain is stringed to the spiritual person who happens to be intuitively the true and eternal person.

The spirit person- Before I talk about the soul person let me start by talking about the spiritual person so that it will be easy to understand what the soul person is made of. The spirit person is that original spirit of God in a pure state in person form. Let us never forget that we have God who exists in the spiritual and is Creator and Owner of all these things. Otherwise our healing will be difficult to come by. The reason why some teaching and counseling fail to help people in the long term is because the teachers there just work plainly on the naturals only and they leave out important spiritual realities. The think it is mythical to talk about spirituality.

At Life Light Foundation we have eyes in the spiritual because we believe in a true living God who is Spiritual. So, we know how to engage with the spiritual realities in order to solve problems that are seen as natural yet those problems root somewhere from the spiritual and the solution comes from the intervention of spiritual.

This spiritual person requires staying clean and smart as a baby is. She or he likes to resemble the holiness of the Father. Some people would go on to think of this one as the sixth sense or some faint voice type of sense. No, it’s not the sixth sense; it is rather the real spiritual person who always tries to influence all of us to run away from doing evil. The spiritual person speaks softly and is normally not listened to because of the natural noises or desires that overwhelm our minds and feelings.

The inner person or soul- This is another dimension of a person. As I write this script I am mainly a natural person in the flesh that is why I can type on the computer keyboard like this. The brain and the mind together with organs of the body make all this possible by reasoning, thinking and acting. The brain uses my life experience to work out and produce that which my mind assumes to be reasonable.  As I do this the spiritual person is busy trying by all means to tell me everything or give me awareness about things that are life giving, truthful and God loving so that I do not sway away from God’s purpose. However, if I get very much inclined into fulfilling my natural desires and those things which are usually not in line with the way of God, I may not hear the soft voice of the spiritual person and may end up lost in selfishness and pride and get lost from the wisdom of life. But if I listen to him I am likely to produce a script that can be life giving to myself and many others.

My final personality therefore in this exercise will therefore resemble a mixture of spiritual truths and the natural truths, experiences and desires. This final mixed potion of myself is the person called the soul. So the soul is the final combination of the natural person and the spiritual person. All that you see people do in this world is the works of the soul.

There are two extremes that the soul will move between in order to remain living or to invite death it itself. If the individual listens more to that spiritual person who is always reminding us about doing well and loving God, that individual will live in high spirit and goodness and fullness of life. The opposite is true. If the individual always seeks to satisfy own natural desires and thinks more of own self and living in hatred without feeding into the spiritual truths, that individual is likely to suffer from egoism and the result is lack of real life and emotional dissatisfaction and these are just the beginning of sorrows.

Having said that I am now going back to talk a bit more about how to understand the spiritual person.

The spiritual person is the original person. The original spirit of God. That is the spirit of life that was breathed in us by the Author of life on the day of creation. So that spirit knows God and wants to obey Him. Unfortunately, the spiritual person is not given enough chance to dominate due to natural experiences and the result is that many people end up incapacitated spiritually and end up having no power or wisdom to fight natural challenges.

The result can be life hating such as in the case of people who commit suicide. This is because the natural person alone without the spiritual person has not life in him or her. Life real is found in the spiritual person. A clever mind therefore would not be selfish in thought to only choose to do what satisfies own natural desires but seeks more to satisfy the spiritual needs like worshiping God, loving, forgiving and helping others.

If you are among those ones in my opening paragraph I urge you to start doing the following: This is called spiritual awakening.

Get out of egoism– In this case I am saying start to think and care about other people’s welfare. Start to serve, share and interact with people. Start to love other people.

Forgive – If you happen to have some ill will because someone did wrong to you some time ago visit that person and tell him or her you have forgiven them. You can even extend a gift to them.

Model a positive mindset– Get your mind out of negative thinking. Negative thinking is energy draining. Stop continuing to think about the painful divorce that took place months or years ago. Stop bringing to life events surrounding the death of your only loving wife who passed on months or years ago.

Understand Life- Life belongs to the Creator and you and me are just vessels to make it flourish so do not punish it by living in cruel feelings or kill it. Doing the opposite invites judgment from the owner of it, God.

You can do better– Everything comes and passes and no one will ever come to open our eyes if we are not eager to do so ourselves.

Spiritual investment– Investing in the power of spiritual awakening.

Understand God’s purpose in you- You did not put yourself here on earth. You came from somewhere. God knows you and has a purpose in you. Know and love Him. Tell Him your issues. He is there to help you as your only Father. So worship Him.

What to practice– Rise up, brave yourself and go and forgive those you have grudges against. Make friends with all races of people and feel the elevation of your spirit immediately.

Then find your healing.

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BOUNCING BACK BETTER

THE POWER OF BOUNCING BACK BETTER

This is a life learning script from the Life Tutelage series. Today we are not talking about Spiritual Awakening but will talk about another important Smart Life Learning process called Resilience Building. This is the power of bouncing back better. 

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The Power of Bouncing Back Better.

Every one of us has had a time when we felt exceedingly bad, and worse still the overwhelming whispering voices telling us that life has no value might have started making noise in us. Sometimes we were only able to get back to the normal self because a friend or some other caring individual came our way and sobered us by giving some wise counsel to help us come out of the emotional debacle. On the other hand, we might have stayed in the negative spiritual world for long and became stressfully unhealthy because no one came to our rescue on time and we could have even failed to recover fully.

A rare personal attribute that most people do not possess at optimum levels is RESILIENCE. This is the power or ability to bounce back. Those people we see or hear about committing suicide, failing to eat well, engaging in negative self-talk or suffering from emotional stress, seriously lack a good level of emotional resilience.

The common cause of many marriage breaks and failures in life is simply lack of resilience. Some of such resilience factors may include the effective marriage awareness where there is realization of the good of maintaining the marriage in good shape. Ability to remember the good about your partner and the marriage and not concentrate on the negative picture.

We are all subject to various emotional and non-emotional behaviors at varying moments in our lives. An emotional behavior is an act that is influenced by a strong feeling such as crying, speaking angrily, negative self-talk, fighting and many other actions done because of forceful feelings or thoughts. There are also behaviors or characters that are positive in nature but are not life supporting, eg laziness and lack of self-esteem. Laziness can lead to procrastination or no action at all. A super star of resilience has a high level of self-awareness which allows adjusting on bad areas such as laziness whenever it starts popping in. Resilience is about self-assertiveness and self-efficacy. It is not to look at yourself down as one in misery or a defeated lot. The power of bouncing back voices in you that you are not a failure and you will never be miserable but can rise to greater heights.

 So, everything starts here in the self. What thoughts do you entertain in your mind most often? Here is wisdom and take note of this. What you think in yourself and allow to dwell in your mind becomes real food for your spiritual stamina. We will talk more about this later.

In poorly managed organizations or families, failures occur to a greater extend because people tend to be rigid and stiff in their old beliefs and systems. They are not easily adaptable to change whether within the self or to the environment so they break or fail easily. Friction and collapsing of relationships are usually caused by lack of tolerance especially on both, one or all parties involved. Tolerance is a big factor of resilience.

Do you know a “why me” mentality? It is a negative state of mind in self-talk. It is a self-talk questioning vanity and enjoying the buildup of vile emotions, but guess what, this state of being is too dangerous and self-destructive.

Resilience allows a person to go through tough times; being swept back and forth, folding like a reed in a flooded river but not breaking. Instead at first you see the reed sometimes partly over-flown by the flood water but you will never see it rooted up and taken away by the ravening floods. Infect if you come the next season to check on that place you will be surprised to see that it is no longer only one. Instead they may be several and each one of them budding to produce shrubs. That’s what resilience points to. There is some power of bouncing back better in effective resilience. It is all about winning your objective, and believe me if you check the following season again on the reeds you might see they have formed a small bush. Infect it looks as if the aim is to increase the area of influence and become a larger territory, a developing island.

That is a broader meaning of resilience and how it turns negative situations into usefulness. That is bouncing back with a purpose and growing bigger. Do not allow yourself to be extinguished by the odds of the environment. YOUR TAKE HOME!

More importantly we must be aware of our emotional resilience, which is the ability to be aware of own emotions and the ability to tap them down before they affect us or the other person.

This skill should be a major to us all as without it many of us are easily carried away by emotions only to regret later when we find ourselves in sorry situations causing us to hate life. It is important to note that emotional resilience does not mean that people don’t disagree or even point fingers at each other. Disagreeing and pointing fingers at each other should always be taken as ways of expressions of differing opinions. And that should be where learning and growth for better decision making begins instead of taking that as sources of grudge.

What resilience means is that of course having been taken that far and that long by your emotions because of a particular terrible life event, your wits should be quick to remind you that you are staying in a bad state and need to bounce back to your normal state. This is what I was referring to as the effective power of bouncing back better.

Actually, having experienced a terrible life challenge that extremely draws most energy, resilience fanatics are quick to bounce back in new style and more highly spirited and motivated to explore new life avenues.

You do not need to allow your mind to take you to a state where you feel defeated. Being in a continuous state of misery and hopelessness is a major sign of emotional defeat and the end of such a state may be miserable.

By the way it is the nature of life to toss people back and forth at varying life times. But it is the duty of the individual to be appropriately resilient enough when she or he faces challenges.

Bouncing back is not easy if one does not have the stamina to do that. There should be some motivational energy to put you back to the former state or else one will remain demonized in the negative state of the situation and suffer from depression, stress or die.

We will talk about the motivational energies of building resilience in another module that we will publish in some series to come.

Meanwhile you must know that you always need to shake up and bounce back when you are sinking into the perils of negativity and depression. People need to have some kind of projects that you are doing for life. This helps to employ their minds to work on something productive. It’s not advisable to have an idol mind that does not have any plan of action for the day. Your life goals and plans are sources of energy for resilience building.

Usually people are taken and led into negativity unaware and sometimes they actually feel as if it is their right to be in a state of self-pity. These people need to be reminded, and I am reminding them that they will be terribly toasted by emotions forever if they do not realize that negativity is not a good state to keep the mind.

No one normal person can live in isolation for long. For that reason, we are usually found to be at our homes with families or at various organizations including at work or social groups like churches among others. Of importance is to note that every single person bears own personalities and as such we display different interactive behaviors and emotions. For example, some people are by nature bullish while others are decent and quiet, others are talkative and yet others are emotionally aggressive. All this builds a society in which we live and we form part of that society.

However, because of these differences in personalities or knowledge and understanding, often times you walk around only to find people fighting, shouting at each other, or a family breaking relationship, or worse still wife and husband divorcing.

Speaking about divorce, I remember seeing this young woman one day in a small bush a few meters away from her home sitting on a rock and her face looking into the distance as if she was looking at something nasty taking place. I did not talk to her because I did not worry about her since I did not know her and proceeded with my journey to a relative’s home in Marimba Park where I slept that night.

In the following morning on my return I used the same way and to my surprise the same young woman I saw the previous day gazing into the distance was there again this time holding her face and looking down and it was around 1000hrs. I changed my way and walked towards her. I developed feelings in myself that something might be wrong with her. When I was closer I saw that there was a 2-quire counter book and a blue ball point pen on her left side. I sought a wise and professional way to talk to her so I greeted her first and then asked her if everything was fine with her.

Without showing surprise she slowly lifted up her face that was washed in tears and looked at me and without answering she got back into her usual position; face down and a small towel on her mouth and nose. Then I realized that in order to help her I was really supposed to search deep into my coaching bag of skills and find something suitable for her. The woman had a really big life problem.

I sat down quietly and looked at her directly with a long-worried look. For about two minutes I sat quietly purposefully looking disturbed and concern. When the woman rose her face, she saw me seated somewhere on a rock about five meters away and my left hand on my cheek as if I had fallen in the same problem like hers. She straightened her head up as she looked at me and said softly “Who are you sir and why do you look so concerned about me yet you do not know me?” “No madam I saw that something was not right here when I was passing and decided to come close to find out if I could be of help. I know that there are a lot of things that affect people in life which may endanger their lives if they are not handled correctly”. I said as I appeared to be looking more concerned. She then opened up and started sharing her problem.

For the sack of interest, the discussion I held with the woman revealed something shocking. It come out that her husband had planned with his relatives and to divorce her because she had no children for the five years that she had been in marriage. Her husband had taken some of the property from the house the previous day and went to stay with another wife. Now this woman here felt pained and ragged emotionally. She said that she felt there was no need to live because she felt miserably useless and unworthy.

After about two hours of skillful life care and awareness talk she opened up and said she had decided to take her life away and the 2quire counter book she was having was used to deceive people who would see her getting into the bush to suspect that she was going for studying especially those who stayed near her home.

I managed to restore hope and new life with a purpose in her through proper life coaching and counseling and today three years later that woman is well alive and got married to another man and they have a daughter. Thanks to the working spirit of resilience in her that led to a quick bounce back to normal life.

Here is a list of resilience building traits that I used to help her during my coaching sessions.

Vision- There is good life ahead that is made out of your plans today

Determination- In order to pull out to that vision there must be motivation.

Clear goal- Setting clear simple and friendly goals help to create motivation

Mission-This is the practical process of purpose to achieve the goals.

Strategic objectives- These are simple answers to the how, when, and what of the process. They are methods in the process that will be used to achieve the goals for example one strategy may answer how to do it. The other strategy may answer when to do it and the other strategy may answer the what actually will be done.

Positive mindset. Getting the mind away from captivity -a captured mindset is self-destructive. Make your mind free form any form of accusations, self-condemnation or any pop-up thought of failure.

High spirit level-A positive mindset is easy to bounce back into high spirit level even after recent life and spiritual challenges.

Let go- A mindset that can not let go easily is in danger of falling into a captured mindset zone and staying in negativity and the end is a dying self and spirit.

Motivation-Assertiveness is a good source of motivation. If someone is sure of oneself and fully satisfied by who you are you will love yourself and act with prudence because you do not want to robe yourself of your dignity and value.

Of course, this would need a whole teaching session for more detailed coverage. So if you have a comment or need something get in touch.

Question

Do you have a case of your own in which you remember your life was affected negatively because you did not exercise resilience? It could be breaking of relationship through divorce or even failing to complete school. What do you think was the cause of failing to bounce back? Please share with us

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What is Life Tutelage and Spiritual Awakening?

On every aspect of life time spent, humanity always tend to practice some kind of cautious awareness in whatever they do. They plan for a good future. They go to school to learn life skills so that they standout well knowledgeable and prepared to face the challenges of life as they embark on the seemingly infinite journey of life and existence. Now here comes a thorny issue. Whilst along the path of life and existence and well prepared as such, some have failed dismally on the way side without reaching far. They have just registered the score of failure and uselessness in the race. Sadly, the loss is not all to themselves, but also to the environment and largely to the Owner of life who loaned His special asset-life to them only for them to fail the test of life and existentialism. Very sad reality indeed. Are you not about to register uselessness in the race of life and existentialism?

May be what I am talking about is not yet clear to you so let me bring some light to it. There is not one person today who has not heard of, or witnessed a suicide case. Over 703 000 people commit suicide every year https://www.who.int/campaign and over 15 000 000 attempts to kill themselves. In many hospitals or clinics today, the health professionals are always busy counselling patients over dangers of hypertension, heart diseases, stress related illnesses and more. Life coaches are also busy doing the same, counselling people to be more careful about their life. At the moment I want to express my great appreciation for the work of saving lives that these great men and women do. However, my heart sinks to the low when I consider that about five million people die yearly because of stress related diseases https://www.singlecare.com/ . Yet hundreds of millions of people live in self-condemning mindsets which kills the vest in their spiritual persona.

Life Tutelage and Spiritual Awakening is the right place for all these victims where they get full self-restoration of their original person.

What is Life Tutelage and Spiritual Awakening then? This is dynamic education designed to cause the soul to have a wilful force of the self towards adaptation of new positive life-giving behaviour. Use of positive life and spiritual truths and practices, exhibitions and acts.

The very core issue in Life Tutelage is to take the mind back to the reality of who you are, your purpose in the cosmos and knowing the Owner, purpose and end of all these things. There is no shorter way to these lifesaving truths except to accept to learn them, understand them and live them. Or it can just be failure and uselessness of many in this race of life and existentialism that we are in. This is never difficult or illusionary. It is real and true.

In the phase of spiritual awakening we are getting to know more about the philosophical conception of humanity as it relates to the subjects of His creation. A humble analysis of this, will help us to be lifted up spiritually and then start to know, love and obey Him as our only Father. From that stage all those suicide intentions and stressful minds in the darkness become a thing of the past.

It is not just about physical churches, but it’s mainly about going back into the natural and spiritual truths and believing in His truth and promises as well as knowing, loving and obeying Him from within. But this may not be so simple, but yes, it is. Living life in fullness is possible is the purpose of His creation.

Let’s meet again in the next episode of False Beliefs in Life Tutelage and Spiritual Awakening series

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